A relationship with someone who lacks this quality can be very frustrating so it is advisable to get yourself out of any connection and move on with your life
Consistency and reliability are the bedrock of a relationship so it is of utmost importance to check out these two qualities in a person you are about to develop real feelings for.
Consistency and reliability are the bedrock of a relationship so it is of utmost importance to check out these two qualities in a person you are about to develop real feelings for.
A relationship with someone who lacks in these two qualities can be very frustrating so it is advisable to get yourself out of any connection and move on with your life.
Relationship expert Dr. Seth Meyers gives 4 simple signs that indicate your date is unreliable and inconsistent
1. Losing or messing up directions to your meeting place:Yes, everyone can get lost, but this first impression is important so your date should use good judgment in planning: researching ahead of time how to get to the meeting place; checking transportation methods or parking restrictions; and allowing extra time to find the place. If your date has a problem with finding their way there, it’s a clear sign that the meeting is either not very important to him, or that she may be a disorganized person. If it’s the latter, ask yourself: Do I really want to deal with someone who’s disorganized for years to come? Finally, to be fair, getting lost or messing up the directions once may be understandable. If your date does this twice, however, this level of flakiness and disorganization is a serious warning sign.
2. Your date’s social or extracurricular calendar couldn’t be fuller:When comparing, say, fifty adults within the same age range, there is an obvious spectrum of “busy.” Simply put, some people are busier than others. When you first meet someone, try to get a sense of how busy they are. In other words, how much do they typically pack their calendar? Aside from working hours, is this someone who is usually home most nights of the week and out of the house one or two nights per week? Is this someone who chooses to be out of the house most nights per week but home only one or two nights? Finally, if you look at the weekend as a whole, is this someone who packs their weekend full with activities? My point: Dating someone who structures their life so they are always busy means that they may not have a lot of time to give you once you’re in a relationship. As reliable as he or she may be with all the activities that keep them busy, their calendar tells you that they may not be so reliable for you and only you.
3. Your date is easily distractible or a little spastic:When you’re having your first few conversations with a date — whether on the phone or in person — watch out for signs of distractibility. If he tends to lose his train of thought frequently or has to ask you again what you’ve said, this may be a person whose brain works so fast or frenetically that they can’t focus easily for a period of time.
Easily distractible individuals are often unreliable because they are disorganized internally; they simply can’t juggle much without getting flustered. Just imagine how this trait could bother you years down the road when you’re dealing with a mortgage, children, or unexpected life stressors. “Spastic” might be cute or charming in the very beginning, but do not sugarcoat the truth: It is not charming years later.
4. Your date is late more than once:If your date is late to call you or to meet you the first time you’ve scheduled to connect, make a mental note and do not forget it. Lateness is a major sign of either disorganization or selfishness, and each of those traits makes for a highly unreliable person. If your date is late a second time within a short period of time, you should seriously consider waving this new relationship goodbye before things get any more serious. Being a grownup is all about honoring one’s commitments.
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