Marriage is no bed of roses; it comes with challenges and sorry is your name if you’re not ready:
I got married October 2014 to a man whom I really love. Due to our spiritual convictions, we never had s*x before marriage but we cuddled and kissed but it stops there.
Fast forward to 2 months after our wedding, my hubby started making sinful and improper s*xual demands, he wants me to suck his p*nis and swallow his s*men. I was terrified and disappointed at the same time. This was a ”born again” so I can not really relate with this level of carnal mindedness. We courted for 6 months and all through there was no tell tale signs that he was that way.
He started giving me the cold treatment. He only speaks to me when I speak. I had no choice so I conceded and gave in just to make him happy with a blow job…
The first time I tried was a disaster, I honestly don’t know what happened. I was on the act and I suddenly felt sick and nauseous. I threw up when he came and I tried to swallow. It tasted like sour jam and I just couldn’t bear it.
Since then, he has been acting up, he rarely talks to me. I tried explaining my situation but his conclusion was that I don’t love him, that if I did, I wouldn’t have issues with swallowing his semen.
I love this man but I am confused on how swallowing semen has become proof of love, I don’t know what to do.
I love this man but I am confused on how swallowing semen has become proof of love, I don’t know what to do.
Please help me, my marriage is too young for this.
Its not By or with Force.....both partner most Understand one another, if he insisted and u don't want to leave him...one must make a sacrifice....and be Prayerful....but if no sign of change...better to be alone than to kill ursf without enjoying what u warked for....Join me on http://pin.bbm.com/C003EEACF #lovemessagesbbmc
ReplyDeleteEmmanuel said it all..
ReplyDeleteSince u r in d situation now,u seek a marriage counsellor,both of u should find a way to satisfy urselves. Sex shouldn't be an issue in ur marriage itz too early,try and read books n articles about sex.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious your husband sex life is different from yours... that's why it very good to know your partner life style before marriage. .. my advice if you love him you will love what ever he like, and work together. .
ReplyDeleteThis word "Sacrifice" means a lot as for me if that will be an issue for him to be miss behaving it's better to play by what will please him than to let go of him cos in life we all have our short coming, but understanding matters a lot
ReplyDeleteSo madam, did ur bible not tell u that anything u do in marriage is holy? D problem here isn't the man my dear, d problem is ur idea of what sex should be "missionary"... better tell ur hubby to teach u dese things, u buy books and learn to become a better partner in bed. I've heard stories where it's d woman who's more advanced all u need do is learn to be better. SEX in its self is an act (action) u better learn to keep up or loose him.
ReplyDeleteI concur. There is nothing wrong with his demands. It's your place to learn more about it and stop complaining or feeling it's a canal act. Sometimes over spiri spiri is the religious persons major devil.
DeleteI agree with the party. Believe me I'm like your man and you're like my woman, just don't fight over it and number one do not listen to people telling you to quit your marriage. If you are this spri koko I believe you wont give in to divorce. Rather do not think about the whole swolong thing. Just wait for hom to come back from work, spread those sexy legs of yours and tell him to suck the hell outta of your pussy plus lick your cum, believe me he'll do it. The more intense you get with your partner the tighter your bond. Free your mind and have fin with your partner my dear. You both deserve it
DeleteThis is very sad to hear, am so sorry about your problem, what I see there is that both of you need to sit down and really ask your selfs questions and add sure you will get answers. Also pray hard for God to touch him, because as for me that is evil spirit in him. Meet your pastor for advice and prayers, I believe God can restore him in Jesus name. Amen. Add me up for more advice if you want. 24E3D4AA
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,its not easy tho,bt it's a lyf tym tin,u just hav to mk sacrifices it's in ur hands to mk ur marriage wat u want it to be lyk,. Then forcing u to swallow his semen is smth am against its not suppose to b by force seriously,as a medical practitioner he might b sick,and u may not kno abt it,. I dnt support d idea of forcing u,bt all dis tins re d tins we do to spice up our marriage nd relationship,u can giv in to it,once in a while,and not forcing u to swallow his semen abeg,bt just tk kia of ur marriage it's to early to strt fighting
ReplyDeleteI would say u should learn to give a proper blow job and enjoy it and feel comfortable. If he enjoys it, he might not really notice you didn't swallow. And about loving him, it shouldn't be one-sided. Besides his your husband get wild.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I insist on sex before marriage. But you will say I am the devils tool. This problem wouldn't have been if you both knew each other on a sexual level. All this holy holy won't save your marriage. Learn to give that blowjob very well and swallow like you would a bitter pill if you want to please your husband. .. or someone else's going to please him for you. But that also shouldn't be a problem if you think it's best.
ReplyDeleteStevephine: I do agree with Rich Oke, there is nothing wrong with wht ur hubby is demanding frm u, its just wired to u cos u two didn't get to knw more about ur sexuap lives bfor getting married.. my advice to u is u add more value to ur life by reading more books about sex and also contact a marriage counselor, also pray that God gives u more insight on how to keep ur home cos it's ur duty to satisfy ur hubby sexually anywhere, anytime and whreva and anyhow as long as he isn't abusing u....if sex is wht will keep ur home, my dear give it to him cos sex of different position isn't a sin in marriage, u two ought to enjoy ur sex lives in ur marriage...
ReplyDeleteThe actual truth here is that the man has high sexual demands and you the woman have to up your game moreover thats why its a marriage. Blow job is one thing, Blow job then sex is another thing(commonly practised), Blow job to swallow his s*men is another, which logically is close to sex or masturbation. His demands shows he gets little pleasure from bed meaning you are not good enough so he wants to do it himself with little help from You. So open your mind and change your idaeology of sex in other to make your man enjoy Sex with you...( you should be lucky his telling you what he wants, others will get their sexual needs from other women). Read more books on sex. Possible solution from my Point of View is that you give him the Blow job and for the s*men tell him you want it inside you(you are married) then sexually lure him to bed for a great sex . #lifedesk
ReplyDeleteI understand in the aspect of blowjob then sex or just blowjob but the idea of forcing u and telling u that if u don't do it you don't love him is just wrong, I am not a marriage expert cus I'm not married but what I feel u can do for a start is give him a bj first and then have sex with him and then he cums inside u or just learn to swallow it, think of it like a bitter drug and then swallow and then try to kiss him and see what happens Lol... That's a joke but you can try it but explain to him and talk to him about how you feel, marriage comes down to understanding and you're too uptight in your Christian ways when it comes to sex free your mind and be naughty however you want to be in the bedroom with him, he's your husband cus if you both have waited all this while to have sex when you're both married why throw your marriage away all cus of sexual curiosity cus I'm sure he has been waiting all his life to do this, why not give it to him or find a way to work it out...SEX OR SEXUAL DESIRES/CURIOSITY IS NOT A SIN WHEN YOURE MARRIED
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