Not many know that Nigerian musician, singer-songwriter and pioneer of modern world music, King Sunny Ade has about seven 'official' wives. In a new interview with PUNCH, one of the beautiful ladies, Queen Ahneva Adegeye, KSA's African American wife opened up on how not easy it is being one of KSA's many wives. Excerpts:
- Why did you choose to marry KSA?
I didn’t choose him, he chose me. We chose each other. Everything is in divine order. When my girlfriend said I should follow her to watch a juju artiste performing at UCLA, I was mesmerised. I hadn’t heard of him before. He was cute and he had dreamy eyes. He spoke the African language and I was blown away. My friend said I should come back stage and meet him and I went. It was a natural connection. I wasn’t pushing up on him anyway. He so much captivated me and got me going.
If I had thought about it real strong and real long, I probably wouldn’t have married him. It is not the easiest thing to be ‘one of’ but you love who you love. He has a beautiful spirit and a wonderful heart. You just can’t help but love him. He has a way of treating all his wives like queens. When I am around, I feel like the only one and I am sure when the others are around, they feel like the only one. That is the magic for a man who has learnt how this polygamy thing works.
- But don’t you feel sad at times?
The only thing I cry about most nights is being by myself a lot. He is absent all the time because he is always on the road and doing his music. That is what he loves and I cannot mess with that. It is what makes him happy. He is not possessed by any of his wives; he is possessed by his music. That is the truth. That is the only thing that I know that he lives for. He loves his music. I go to his shows and when he starts praising me, I feel on top of the world. I love it when he does that.
- What is your relationship with the other wives?
We are very cool. There are some I consider myself ‘cooler’ with than the others. Their kids are like mine. We love one another. They understand that I am not getting more than they are getting. We try to be as supportive as possible; there is no hate. There is no foul word or ugly look. We always come together when we have to. Sunny is endeared by what he does. Nigerians love him as much as we do. We don’t ever think we would compete with his love for his music. I try to keep myself busy so I don’t feel too lonely.
- Everybody thinks you were named Queen because you were married to King Sunny Ade?
No. I got that title before I got married to Sunny. I was even introduced to him as Queen of Designs the first time we met. I also hold the title of Jewel of Africa from a prestigious orginisation called Africa Focus.
- How did you meet?
I was his designer. I was making all his wears. Anytime he came to the US, I would dance on the stage and put a crown that I designed for him on his head. We just had something going on.
- So you never considered marrying an American when you were younger?
No! I had a couple of proposals before but I declined. I knew I wasn’t going to be in America for the rest of my life. I had always known I would come back home to Africa. I knew I would create my legacy and that of my children here.
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